I am working hard to see the positives in all areas. I am always trying to be a positive person, but I can sometimes get in bad habits of being overly critical. I think this is an issue many people face, especially those who have not had as much social experience. I was stuck at home for a very long time due to medical problems and I think I have a lot of social experience to catch up on. I really want to see the best in everyone because people deserve that.
I think it is easy for people to be critical of things that are different than what they do. I fall into this sometimes, but it’s getting better with practice. I try to consciously think about what is best for the other person and not how I would approach the situations, unless I am asked for advice. Being a positive person is not about thinking critically about someone and just keeping it to yourself to look good externally. Being positive is about changing your mindset.
Mitchell's Life with Autism 
hi Mitchell. I am the mom of an autistic 20 year old woman. She is a speller too and also lives with complex medical challenges. Right now she is working on learning the basics of what I call āadultingā. Something we all get to learn about for life!
We enjoy reading your writings. We are interested in the classes you are taking in college and how it all works. Maybe that can be an avenue for my daughter as well.
Our best wishes are coming to you and your team.
Deanne and Molly.
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You’re right, overcoming the human brain’s hard-wired tendency to focus on the negative (and potentially threatening) is a challenge that everyone has to fight. Some people seem to find this easier than others instinctively, and some find it really, really hard. It’s especially hard for those who have experienced trauma, as the brain is stuck in survival mode. And of course, trauma is pretty common among the autistic population! I’m glad you’re having some success with the fight! And getting some practice in with flexible thinking and perspective taking in the process. š. Reminding myself that there are a lot of different reasons for why people do what they do, and not to “jump to conclusions” if something doesn’t go the way I expect (or need) certainly helps me to keep from assuming the worst (and reacting similarly) without evidence!
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BTW, love the picture! Looks like you’re having a lot of fun!
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