Dating for Non-Speakers

Dating is not something I hear a lot about in any disability population, especially for non-speakers. I of course would like to go on dates or to a school dance, but I am not sure what that would look like. It would be so weird to have parents there, but I think having just about any communication partner on a date would be awkward. I think I would like just writing to someone to start.

Dating and relationships is an integral part of the human experience and I want to have that in some way. I am hopeful that it can be done because all people deserve love. I think going on a real date could be overwhelming, but something more untraditional could work.

The benefit of COVID has been learning how to communicate and stay in touch with other people from the comfort of home and I believe this will benefit non-speakers. We could build trust and comfort with a partner online before meeting in-person. It is something that I would like to work toward now that I am more comfortable with myself.


One comment

  1. I feel the need to point out that while many people find romantic relationships an important part of their life, it is not an essential part of being human, or being an adult. Many people, with and without disabilities, identify as asexual or aromantic. That is, they just aren’t interested in those kinds of relationships. Society is finally starting to realize there is nothing wrong with people who feel this way, even though historically it has been assumed there is.

    That said, if you really do want to go on dates with people, because you have romantic feelings towards someone, or want that kind of relationship, (rather than just because “it’s expected”) then yes, developing independent communication skills is probably something you want to work towards. It would make the whole situation easier, especially in the early stages of the relationship.

    I agree with the other things you’ve said too, about developing a relationship through a method that works for you first, before meeting in person, is a good idea. Safely, of course. It sounds like you’ve got a lot of good thoughts on the subject.


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