A lot of people are alright at communicating with me. However, I have come to notice characteristics of exceptional communication partners. A lot of inflection when talking is beyond irritating. An even tone and attitude keeps me regulated. I need stability and someone who is going to show up for me, not just because it is their job, but because I matter to them. A good sense of humor goes a long way. A stupid joke every once in a while isn’t what I mean. A genuine and funny personality is. I need to trust that they know what they’re doing and that they are confident. I have a lot of medical needs that need to be monitored appropriately. An effective communication partner can tell when I am going to have a seizure just by how I type, so they can monitor me more closely. My seizures are fast and an ineffective communication partner may miss them. My best communication partners have never missed one.
Some people assume everyone can be communicated with in the same way, but this isn’t true. Each individual with autism is different, and it is important to understand what our needs are and what we value in a communication partner. An effective communication partner is important for our progress, so help us be successful by understanding our needs for a communication partner. You can tell in the quality of my work who I’ve been communicating with and I believe this is common. It isn’t that I can’t spell with everyone, it’s that I value a relationship based on trust to be willing to. I love all of my communication partners, but some are better at helping me take my work to the next level. I could never have dreamed of starting this blog without an amazing communication partner pushing my limits. Find a communication partner who knows your capabilities and your needs.